We all have moments that define ourselves; moments where we really shine and stand out above the crowd, or do something unexpected that might have even caught ourselves off guard, but in a good way. It's in these moments that you can rightly feel a sense of pride - your hard work paid off; you accomplished a great feat; or you stuck up for something you truly believe in, and it made a difference.
One of my proudest moments was actually a time when I stood up for myself. Someone I had been friends with - for the sake of this post, I won't reveal who exactly this 'someone' is - completely changed right in front of my eyes. I confided something in this person - something that we were both going through - because I believed I could trust them, and they immediately shut me out. On two separate occasions I asked if I had done something to upset them, and the reply was 'no.' This person then proceeded to lie to me over and over about the most mundane things, they made up stories about me to mutual friends, and kept as much distance between us as physically possible. As confused as I was, I decided that if they wanted to behave like a child for no reason, I'd let them.
Throughout all of this, I learned that what other people say or do is not your responsibility. If someone wants to try and ruin your reputation, let em go ahead and try. If what they're saying about you isn't true, your true friends will realize it right away. The gossiper will end up ruining their own reputation. And if your 'friends' continue to buy into their story, you don't need them. They're not truly looking out for you.
Just like many other people who find themselves in similar situations, I completely caught myself off guard. I never expected to stand up for myself like that. And there hasn't been a day since then that I've regretted the decision to finally fight back - with my words, not my fists - and cut people off.
If anyone else is in this situation, I'd definitely say that you have to find your own voice. Stand up for the truth, but don't rub it in people's faces. Whatever lies that have been said about you will be cleared up. People will see that you aren't insert lie here. Don't put up with a bully.
For those of you who might, unfortunately, be in a worse situation with a bully, there is always someone you can go to for advice on dealing with this. I know this is a cliche thing to say, but you are not alone. No matter what you may think, you are not the only person who's willing to fight for your life.
Here are some organizations that I follow on Twitter that really care.
If you ever need someone to reach out to, here is a list of people you can talk to:
Please call a Hotline/Lifeline if you feel like you or someone you know is in danger.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) free 24/7
The Trevor Project Suicide/Crisis Call Center: 1-866-4U-TREVOR
Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
Also, check out these down to earth, awesome organizations:
- Stop Bullying
- STOMP Out Bullying
- TWLOHA (To Write Love On Her Arms)
- The Trevor Project
- Love Is Louder
- Be More Heroic
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